Responsibilties

Responsibilities….

Recently going through the news-papers daily in the morning, a thought came to mind & bothered me. In some or the other news-paper there is an article stating, how children leave their parents behind to lead life alone? Some send their parents to old age houses & others don’t even bother to talk to their parents; don’t have time, the only excuse they give. And many are living with the parents, but don’t treat them properly like not providing them enough space to do things they want to do, not talking to them, Mal-nutrition, ignoring whatever they say & so on…

While talking to one of my best friend who lives in Jaipur. On one hand I was feeling happy to talk to her after long time. On the other hand sad, after listening to her brother’s deed. I was shocked.

As I knew her family from childhood. I saw her brother from the time, when he was a kid. I used to go to their house often & see the love & affection they had between them. Her parents use to do everything they could, for the kids. As all the parents do. I saw them laughing, crying, and also getting tensed for each other. All the siblings had eternal love for each other. I saw her father buying every single thing the son wanted & was the same for all his kids. He never said “No” especially to his son, he always allowed him what he wanted to do. It was a perfect loving family.

My friend’s brother (son) got married to a girl against the wish of his family he got married to an inter cast girl & the family did not like that girl at all. The boy loved the girl so they had this conflict, as the son was forcing the parents to allow him to get married to that girl, whom the parents did not like at all. So after the boy got married to this girl against the wish of his parents he refused to talk to his parents, his siblings, not even on festivals & occasions… As they did not allow him. This is the only single reason the boy was not talking to the family.

After almost a year the parents decided to accept the son with his wedded wife. So he came back to live with the family but it was not so easy for both the family & the couple to adjust & accept. Many things had changed in a year span. The girl he got married to was saying before that, she would do everything to keep the boys family happy, but when the couple started staying with the parents the couple did things which a responsible son will never do. When the boy's mother was very very sick the girl (son’s wife) did not took a break from her job to take care of her mother-in-law. Parents had to keep a maid for them. While the Parents were paying the expenses of the maid then too the wife of the boy had problems saying that its just waste of money. She even use to force her mother-in-law to do all the household stuff on her own while she was ill & the son never use to say anything about what was going on. Infact some times even the son use to scold his mother & father if they did not listen to him or his wife. The parents were not allowed to watch T.V. which is the biggest time pass for an old person. The son and the wife also did not let their child play with the grand parents.

I know it’s the responsibilities of our parents to give love, care, affection, guidance & help in choosing the career, fulfilling all the desires of the kids. The thing that comes to mind is: - Is it not the responsibility of the child to return the same to the parents when they need the most i.e. old age.

I wonder when parents take care of the child & are doing everything they could do for the kid. Why the kids are hesitant in doing the same at the age when parents need them the most. In early age parents are strong enough to take care of themselves. While taking care of the kids they don’t even think about the precious moments of their lives they are missing. After becoming parents they cannot go out for dinner’s often, watch movie, meet friends often, cannot even have a cup of tea if the child is crying around as the kid wants full attention always etc…

Why a child hurt parents??? I don’t say all are the same but there are many in this world that don’t want to live with their parents & are left alone in some old age houses or somewhere alone where it’s very difficult to manage their lives. I heard a saying that “Responsibilities began in dreams” So that means young generation should sleep real well to know their responsibilities…

I just want to say never leave or forget your parents, they do too much for us, we never realize it until we ourselves put us in their shoes be a parent & treat our parents in the way you want yourself to be treated as there is a saying “The only person to be called & worshiped as God are Parent’s” as they make us worth of what we are.